Sunday, November 11, 2012

Finding my tribe


Finding the tribe

Today was a very fabulous day. And as I sit here to write, I have difficulty finding words to truly describe the experience.  I had the honor of attending a research conference today, at my place of employment. And by the end of the day I felt like I was part of this most magnificent tribe: better described as: “home”

Most of you know that I am a nurse, and for many years my job was caring for the patient from a physical perspective.  I later went back to school to learn more about caring for people from a mind body perspective as I entered the world of psychiatry.

But somehow there was so much more I need to learn and found myself awakened to a spiritual journey of healing.  I found much of that outside of the “nursing” arena, and was drawn to a world of healers and spiritual gurus who became my mentors and inspiration.

I worked with shamans, reiki masters, and people who taught me the laws of attraction, quantum physics and natural health approaches.  I even tried to leave the world of traditional healthcare and traditional nursing to practice as one of those healers but found that something was dramatically missing.

I love science, and I practice my nursing from an evidence based perspective, and yet so much of what I know to be true seems so intangible and “spiritual”.  Have been accused of being “out there” by my medical colleagues, and have been somewhat misunderstood by my natural healer comrades because I have found the most satisfaction from keeping my feet in both worlds.

But today, I heard a woman speak on the science of caring.  She had all of the components of my “healer” beliefs articulated into a language and studied and researched with empirical evidence that there is a valid science to caring.  There is science to support that there is a mind body spirit connection, and that it is possible and very quite necessary to integrate all of that into nursing practice.

This speaker, this woman: Jean Watson is the author and founder of a profound theory of nursing: http://www.watsoncaringscience.org/index.cfm/category/88/the-implications-of-caring-theory.cfm
What a privilege to sit with a hundred nurses who not only believe that caring (of self and others) is an integral part of their nursing practice, but implement it on a day to day basis. (And I know this because I see it because I work with these nurses) 

These men and woman know that what promotes healing is not just the medical care they receive, or the nursing  tasks they do, but it comes from the compassion and connection that they have with their patients.  These are nurse who know that to give the gift of healing to their patients they must first find healing themselves.

This is my world now, my tribe and my place to be.  Every experience in my life both personally and professionally had contributed to this journey which has brought me here. I am home, I am grateful and I salute all of the men and woman who call themselves both nurses and healers.  Namaste



These are our thoughts feelings and experiences. We accept responsibility for them. We understand your journey may be different. We honor and respect that. Wishing you effortless joy. Eloise and Jake

Saturday, May 12, 2012

Thank you for the comments from those that were not my biological children but who I loved like they were….

Thank you to my two incredible awesome “step children” who have always treated me like gold and who will always be so very special to me.  I salute their biological mother for the good job she did with them!

Thank you to my three biological children, who have made me proud, and who I love beyond anything I could have ever imagined possible, and who turned out so perfectly, despite not really being raised but who grew up to be just incredible people.

Thank you to my daughter in law’s who have exceeded all my expectations as mothers themselves.  You are just beautiful people and I am so grateful that my sons married you, and that my grandchildren are being raised by you!

 I am thankful for my mother in law who although she is no longer on this earth, her love and wisdom lives on with me today, both in how she treated me and how she raised her son, who I am forever grateful for.

I am also thankful for my own mother, who I never truly appreciated or understood until she was gone…She was a college educated independent woman in the 1920’s who survived the depression with grace.  She would have loved to have had my life… but back in those days woman stayed home and took care of the family; she sacrificed her own life and career to be the wife and mother those days required her to be…. She was not really happy about that…. but none the less she made the sacrifice, and gave me the genes to finish what she started.  I honor her today.

I also honor those women who have mentored me and loved me in ways that I desperately needed, and probably never was able to say thank you to… like my nurse mentors, friends and sisters (and one brother) who protected me and loved me each in their own individual way.

I especially want to say thank you to Sandy (my sister) , who has done much to assist me in becoming the wild wacky woman I am.  I also want to thank her and my other sisters and (brother) for producing such amazing children that I love like my own, and who I just could not be prouder of as mothers (and fathers) and people.

Happy Mothers Day to all!  

Here is a great historical over view of mother’s day…


These are our thoughts feelings and experiences. We accept responsibility for them. We understand your journey may be different. We honor and respect that. Wishing you effortless joy. Eloise and Jake