Three powerful words:

These are our thoughts feelings and experiences. We accept responsibility for them. We understand your journey may be different. We honor and respect that. Wishing you effortless joy. Eloise and Jake

Sometimes I think the three most powerful words I know are: I AM DONE !!!!
Every time my life has changed drastically, it has been shortly after I have said: “I am Done” with something.
I sold the business in Florida when I said “I am done trying to make this work” I have left jobs when I have said: “ I am done being stressed”
I have seen it in my clients when they have said: “ I am done being abused, and they walked out” “ I am done feeling guilty” and they have found joy. “ I am done putting everyone else first in my life” and they begin self care.
Recently in my life I saw things that were happening over and over again, and I said “I am done with this karma.”; And then handled the situation differently.
Being done is an ending. And in order to end something usually you have to be either totally fed up and broken or just fed up to the top. But can you say I am done, way earlier in the reaction change, if you are aware of what is going on.
I think negative situations drift into our lives to get our attention. And the less aware we are, the bigger the situation is. But to be aware sometimes means discomfort. To be aware means asking ourselves, what is the pay off, the benefit, the reward for continuing in some “bad behavior or state of mind?” I ask my clients that all the time: what is the benefit of feeling bad today? And they are shocked that I would think they want to stay that way. But the reality is we do what we want to do, and when we stop wanting to do it, we stop doing it. So if today I am fearful, there is a reason for that: perhaps it keeps me from having to trust the universe. Or if I feel helpless, it might be because feeling helpless means I have no responsibilities, and I have to take no risk, and I can blame everything on someone else. Or if I tired I can say, see, I can’t exercise, Or I can’t can’t can’t.
BUT if become aware of the benefit for my bad feelings, bad behavior, then I can alter them, and create a more powerful desire. I want to feel good. I want to have fun, I want to be successful, I want to be peaceful, energetic, prosperous, healthy, connected etc etc etc. and then the fear settles in because now I am aware of the consequences for those feelings: If I feel good, I will have nothing to complain about. If I have fun: OMG someone will think I am not being responsible. If I am successful, I will have to be perfect and work hard. If I am peaceful I will have to get quiet and meditate, and be true to my self and slow down, and for God sake how can I be peaceful and successful?
If I am energetic, I will have to eat right and reduce my stress and say no to people occasionally and…. I if I am prosperous, I might have to actually be aware of opportunities for change, (and then change) and be aware of how I spend money, be aware of…….now this is sounding like work… If I am healthy I might have to exercise and do self care. If I am connected I will have to be open.
Goodness. How did this conversation get started: Well for me it came from being done feeling old. So now I am paying attention to my body, to my mind and to my spirit.
I said I am done living in fear, which means opening to trust, and joy and opportunities.
Today I get up and say: “Today I am going to do things different.” Today I am going to be aware. Today I am going to feel good. Today I am successful, I am healthy, I am connected. Today I am prosperous. Today I am peaceful energetic. Today I attract all good things. Today I feel good.

Right after i wrote this i got this in an email:

'Don't go through life
so fast that someone has to throw a brick at you to get your attention!'

A young and successful executive was traveling down a neighborhood street,
going a bit too fast in his new Jaguar. He was watching for kids darting out from between parked cars and slowed down when he thought he saw something. As his car passed, no children appeared. Instead, a brick smashed into the Jag's side door! He slammed on the brakes and backed the Jag back to the spot where the brick had been thrown. The angry driver then jumped out of the car, grabbed the nearest kid and pushed him up against a parked car shouting, 'What was that all about and who are you? Just what the heck are you doing? That is a new car and that brick you threw is going to cost a lot of money. Why did you do it?' The young boy was apologetic.
'Please, mister....please, I'm sorry but I didn't know what else to do,' He pleaded. 'I threw the brick because no one else would stop...' With tears
dripping down his face and off his chin, the youth pointed to a spot just around a parked car. 'It's my brother, ' he said 'He rolled off the curb and fell
out of his wheelchair and I can't lift him
up.'
Now sobbing, the boy asked the stunned executive, 'Would you please help me get him back into his wheelchair? He's hurt and he's too heavy for me.'
Moved beyond words, the driver tried to swallow the rapidly swelling
lump in his throat. He hurriedly lifted the handicapped boy back into the wheelchair, then took out a linen handkerchief and dabbed at the fresh
scrapes and cuts. A quick look told him everything was going to be okay. 'Thank you and may God bless you,' the grateful child told the stranger. Too
shook up for words, the man simply watched the boy! push his wheelchair-bound brother down the sidewalk toward their home.
It was a long, slow walk back to the Jaguar. The damage was very
noticeable, but the driver never bothered to repair the dented side door. He kept the dent there to remind him of this message: 'Don't go through life
so fast that someone has to throw a brick at you to get your attention!' God whispers in our souls and speaks to our hearts. Sometimes when we don't have
time to listen, He has to throw a brick at us. It's our choice to listen or
not.