Trusting the Process:

Today I have had several conversations with people about trust, and they have been mostly about trusting the “process”. The process being: ALL THINGS ARE EXACTLY AS THEY ARE SUPPOSED TO BE; NOTHING IS REALLY AS IT SEEMS; BUT IF YOU BELIEVE, IT HAS THE POTENTIAL TO TURN OUT BETTER.

Now they are some easy words, but when you experience life in its ups and downs, and bumps in the road, not always so easy to trust.

So what is trust: Trust knows that there is a reason for everything, and that I am actively participating in a process of attracting into my life exactly what I need and want?

I hear people talk about prayer and they say, well I always get what I need when I pray, but I don’t always get what I want.

I am learning right now that I do always get what I want, but sometimes I do not always know what I want. Therefore I am given things that look foreign to me at the time. Later I realize that whatever it was that I was given was what I really wanted, I just did not know it at the time.

So that takes me to the next question: why do we not know what we want? Hmmmmm; Maybe because we don’t take the time to get quiet and listen to the voice of our most inner being do we not know what we want? So today I took the time to listen to my voice, and I heard it say:

I have everything I want…I am alive, I have friends, I have a tribe, I have a great job, I have opportunities and options, I have hope, I have an awesome family, a perfect husband, I have purpose and healthy and my bills are paid. I feel grateful, and am having fun. I have it ALL…..

Now it would be nice if, I got published by Hay House, it would be nice if, we were able to buy that house on Lake Ring Drive, it would be nice if I got a check in the mail today, but you know what, if none of those things ever happened I would still have it all. And the real fun of life comes in knowing that it could all happen and more. It’s why I wake up everyday: to see what amazing new thing could happen. I trust the process. Life is EXACTLY as it is suppose to be. And I am grateful for every breath I get to take, and for every moment of love I get to experience…..and I am grateful for all of the other moments that teach me to always come back to here.

Have a great day!



These are our thoughts feelings and experiences. We accept responsibility for them. We understand your journey may be different. We honor and respect that. Wishing you effortless joy. Eloise and Jake

there is always a gift.

We recently received a group email that was worth resending, but could not figure out its origination, (to give credit to where it was due). If some one reads this and claims it, I would be glad to give you credit. The story begins with a picture of two fellows carrying heavy crosses... one prays that his cross be shortened. A while later he ask again for his cross to be shortened, and inches were cut from the end. He asks again and again and each time more inches were removed,until it became light enough to carry with a smile.

However, the two reach a deep canyon separating them from a gorgeous wondrous world on the other side.... the one with the shortened cross is dumbfounded as to how to get across. the other lays his cross down and walks across the canyon into paradise. The other sits in darkness and is unable to get over there because his cross had become too short. No matter what your religious beliefs are or are not, its a great story about the magic of the gifts in any trauma or hard time.

And its a great way to visualize our life philosophy:
All things are as they are suppose to be, BUT nothing is as it seems, and if you trust you will find that it is often better.

These are our thoughts feelings and experiences. We accept responsibility for them. We understand your journey may be different. We honor and respect that. Wishing you effortless joy. Eloise and Jake

paradox, integration, balance and perceptions

Someone recently asked me to pick one word to describe myself, and i picked the word paradox. That immediately triggered a longer conversation about who I was. It was in that conversation, that I was able to describe myself in more descriptive terms...I said: "I am a really hard worker, but I play really hard. I love freedom and flexibility, but need structure and clear expectations. I work independently but also work well in and with a team......etc. It was a great conversation. However becoming that balanced and integrated person was not something I have always been. There have been times in my life where i have been one extreme or the other, and there have been other times when i have been just a little of both, but not strong in any one direction.

I have spent time and effort both in assessing my strengths and also looking at how to transform my weaknesses back into strengths". (Weaknesses are all just opportunities to be better in some area of our lives). And I am always looking for ways to flip those perceived weaknesses into strengths. "Weaknesses" are really just perceptions. If we change our perceptions of ourselves, we will then change our image of ourselves; when our image changes our positive energy potential grows as well.

The work of Transforming perceptions works well in the group settings too. We meet new people and begin to develop opinions of their attributes. We then start categorizing them into positive and negative (Strengths and weaknesses). Those conclusions often cause us to be judgemental critical and distant. It is a natural course of thinking, however at any point we can interrupt that process and adjust our perceptions from thinking something is bad or a weakness into perceiving that it is good.

A tangible example would be to pick up a pencil and ask yourself.. is this pencil useful or not? is this pencil a good thing or not..... most people would say their perception is it is neither good nor bad or it is all good. But to the person who has been poked in the eye by a pencil... their perception is quite different. They think the pencil is just bad!

The real challenge is for the person who has been poked in the eye; trying to flip that perception of the pencil from it being a weapon, to it being a useful tool.

We have similar experiences with people and our perceptions of other peoples weaknesses and strengths. And it is just as difficult to change your perception of another person. Maybe they have have hurt you; but there is usually a reason for that, and behind that and simulataneously with that there could be and very often is also a good person. Its all perception.

But the whole point of being a paradox, is that life is both. and people are both. We have good and bad (so to speak), strengths and weaknesses, positive and negative. And how we use or interact with any one of them is all about perception.

And it is my perception that all things are as they are suppose to be, nothing is as it seems, but there is a gift (good) in all things and all people, and its all about perception.



These are our thoughts feelings and experiences. We accept responsibility for them. We understand your journey may be different. We honor and respect that. Wishing you effortless joy. Eloise and Jake

Just BEING

I am amazed continually with how uncomfortable I am with just being,
Not being entertained, and not doing something, just being. Even writing this blog is having to DO something. I am driven to serve and to fix and to problem solve. I like being busy, whether its busy with fun or busy with work.

And the brain, OMG, does it ever just do nothing? I sit to meditate…. But find myself jabbering away at some form of a higher power, with god, with angels, with ancestors, with my totems: something.

I can tell you that getting quiet is a necessary part of healing, but doing it is something entirely different. There is that word again: “doing”. I think that meditation is something that we should be doing….. But it is still not just being.

All of my spiritual heroes and mentors have written about and spoken about the power of being, and yet, it seems to elude me. So I ask: so what do I want to be? I want to be happy, and free and peaceful and energetic. I want to dance and be creative and productive and alive.

I want to be connected and healthy and making a difference and I want to be able to sit quietly and just be all that I am without doing anything. I guess one would have to feel pretty good about themselves to do that. And I guess I would have to feel like I have value just because I exist for me to not feel guilty over doing nothing and just being.

So I believe that all things are as they are supposed to be, and nothing is as it seems and that there is a gift in all experiences. So for today, and for this moment I am going to simply embrace the gift of breathing and being alive and have no expectations and just be in every present moment.

These are our thoughts feelings and experiences. We accept responsibility for them. We understand your journey may be different. We honor and respect that. Wishing you effortless joy. Eloise and Jake

Today I am grateful for:

Dear someone…. Today I manifest consciously and openly ask for all to join with me:
I believe I have a piece of god inside of me, that I strive to nurture… but at times I get pushed behind a wall of sadness and even anger that creates barriers to its freedom to move and create and to love unconditionally…..
So today it is my desire to take down that wall, and move to a different garden where flowers grow, water flows, the sun warms and the earth is healthy. A place where life abounds and the lion can sit with the lamb.
I need a tribe……… and group of people to be around, who I relate to and whose energy will not only enhance mine, but I will be able to give them back something as well..
I need that connection to positive healthy wild and crazy people, who can think outside the box, but live within the boundary of love.
I need to have space and nature and a healing environment to live in and be nourished and revived every day, so that I can go back out and give all I have back to the universe.
I need to party and laugh and be silly, and I need music and dancing.
I need to be able to make a difference, and I need to be valued and appreciated.
I need freedom to grow and to be more and I need for my life to be effortless and prosperous.
I need for my life to reflect the compassion and love I feel for people and the environment and life itself.
So for today I am grateful for connections to people, and for new opportunities to love. I am grateful for opportunities to share my knowledge and energy and love.
I am grateful for laughter, and all things silly. I am grateful to dance and to see beauty, hear music, eat good food, and for the time to smell the flowers.
I am grateful that I am able to give hope, and for all the moments that I know I helped someone else feel good. I am grateful that prosperity is effortless, and so is breathing and moving and loving.
I am grateful that this wonderful spirit, a piece of god, chose this body, and this mind, and that we work together as an integrated whole, and has never once given up on me.
I begin my day with great anticipation and fearlessly embrace all miracles. And I am thankful for all of those whose collective energy makes this possible and for being a witness to my life. Love Noel

inside out?

There is something profoundly different when praying or meditating from the outside in as opposed to the inside out. I was always taught as a child to pray to god, and he would listen. (And i do agree with that) And as my spiritual journey has taken me through new and different experiences, I have interacted energetically, with guides and angels and totems and ancestors etc. (And I have benefited from that)

But lately there has been a shift in my thinking, and in my practice. I have been simply honoring my own spirit. (Which i believe to be a piece of god in side of me.) I have been simply saying, what would you like to do today? And what ever that is, please attract it into our lives and we the body and we the mind will submit and allow it to happen. I sit and think of my spirit just being free. And then i feel myself smiling and sometimes swaying and moving and there is a peace and energy that just is amazing. since i have adopted that practice, my life has been escalating in opportunities and change.

I think the power is inside of ourselves and when we allow it to do the connection to god, higher power, angels, guides whatever big things happen. When we ask the for the reverse, think our past, our minds our bodies create many more barriers, that our spirit can flow through if we just give it permission to.

This feels good!








These are our thoughts feelings and experiences. We accept responsibility for them. We understand your journey may be different. We honor and respect that. Wishing you effortless joy. Eloise and Jake

I can do it Cruise

Cruise Ramblings
Many of you have heard me say: all things are as they are suppose to be, but rarely is it as it seems. (its probably better)
This cruise has been phenomenal, but filled with moments of not so much. For example, last night rich and I dressed up, and went to dinner at the nice dining room. This is a free style cruise, so we did not have an assigned table. (as it turned out that really was a detriment to socializing and networking and making new fun friends).but anyway we sat down and looked at the menu and found absolutely nothing we wanted to order. Really? ….On a cruise and nothing interesting to eat? …..Or at least nothing good to eat. We both have agreed that the food is the blandest food we have ever eaten; Healthy food but no seasoning and no taste. The gift was that we didn’t over eat, and we did eat really really healthy all week
I came here to renew my healthiness, and committed to yoga every morning at 7 am. I imagined my body feeling really good from that, I also knew rich and would not be drinking as much, and felt that would help us to feel good. I ate no gluten for the first 4 days I increased my water intake, went to bed earlier and did a lot of other exercise. By day 5 I felt like crape and was feeling like the bitch from hell, and my knee, right leg and ankle were just screaming at me.
I also came here excited that Rich might make new “enlightened” discoveries and we could share more and be more connected, and yet with each class he came out with his left brain critical reviews. And just began to irritate me. How could he demean my heroes and my spiritual gurus in such caustic description?
But the final blow seem to come at the big Caribbean party, on the top deck last night. I so wanted to dance, but the music was awful, my knew was killing me, there was nowhere to sit down, and I pretty much said… the hell with this and ordered a drink, which I immediately proceeded to spill.
Here was a magnificent opportunity to put the money where the thought is. I sat quietly and remembered that we attract all things into our lives, and the attraction of things into our loves has more to do with what goes on inside of ourselves than what is happening around us. So I simply asked my spirit…. What is going on?
The message that came back to me over the next 24 hours was: This is about change, what you have been doing in the past has not been working so how do you want to do it different? My response was:
I want to be less judgmental, more disciplined, and have more fun. So I just hugged rich, got up and went to yoga this am, and sat with my imagination as to how to have more fun. I stayed committed to: all things are as they are supposed to be, but rarely is it as it seems. (its probably better) and just asked for the gift.
And then I waited. Waiting is not the most pleasant experience, but if you wait, and if you stay connected, and if you love, and if you imagine the gift will come. The gift I learned this week was that the more you imagine and the more you love the less the waiting. And I learned that if you have to process through the crap, be selective with how and who you share the crap with. Write it out, throw it away. Or select someone who can handle your crap and can throw it away for you. (like a therapist or healer) or just sit and wait in silence. I did that and things started to happen. (sometimes feeling like crap is nothing to do with your thoughts feelings or behavior, but it is something going on with you physically). (With me, I came to see: after the fact, that some of it was just a detoxification process, eating better, drinking more water etc, and doing the yoga)
Second insight: What if I could never pleasure any of my senses ever again? (what if I couldn’t dance, or never eat really good yummy foods, or see the blue water, or smell nag champa or lavender) I had to ask if joy came from things we do or just it come from a place much deeper down inside? The answer came back as: Joy is a feeling and it is a feeling that integrates the mind and its imagination with our spirit, for the purpose of pleasuring the body. The bigger the imagination, the bigger the experience of joy will be. Imagination is another way of saying look at all the possibilities. So as I sat in my silence to wait for the crap to leave, I imagined what would bring me joy if I couldn’t dance, couldn’t eat good food, couldn’t smell, couldn’t see or couldn’t do the things that worked in the past. I opened up to possibilities, and opened my heart and mind, and before long was feeling better.
So Insight one: silence, insight two: dreaming big and insight three is about collective energy. Rich came out of the one session I thought he would most likely dismiss and sat down and said: It is all coming together for me. He said: “its all about imagination; the more you imagine the bigger your box will get, and the more miracles you will attract.” I so desperately wanted to say: well duh…been telling you that for years
But instead I just said: “I am so tickled that a light has come on.”. And I secretly said I am so grateful I never told him how frustrated I was with him, because right now at this moment I just loved him. It became apparent that he just needed to be in this energy for a few days, and he needed the accumulative effect of being with such a positive group.
So being quiet, waiting, imagining and loving; It all comes down to that. And then we walked past a window and there was a rainbow out over the ocean. And a cool lady came up to us and said…. There is a hysterical comedian on ship… want to go hear her…. We said sure… and then laughed belly hard for an hour.
Then out of the blue Rich suggest he race / walk in the susan b komen cure for cancer on the ship. “I want to do this for my daughter who has done a three day walk, and for our friend Perri… who survived this.” So while I was in class he was walking the boat, and donating money instead of having a drink.
So yes a very different cruise, but a very good cruise…..tomorrow on an island in the Bahamas, doing a couples massage on the beach. Have changed my shoes and think tonight I will be able to dance at a different bar. ( we heard the music was much better there and knee feels better today, despite eating gluten in a plate of pasta that actually had some distant remote flavor)
SO: all things are as they are suppose to be, but rarely as they seem. (its always better), you just have to get quiet, imagine, and seek out the good energy and join it, feel it, and love. The gift IS in there.

Thanks for all of your prayers and witnessing our journey together