These are our thoughts feelings and experiences. We accept responsibility for them. We understand your journey may be different. We honor and respect that. Wishing you effortless joy. Eloise and Jake
I just spent a few days with some very successful business people. (at the solid cactus "Boot Camp"). They would ask me what business I was in and I would say, "I am in the business of HOPE." For a few moments they would be a little speechless, but then immediately, (rather than walking away, thinking she is a fruitloop)they started asking questions about how I was going to market that, and what package was I going to put that in? And offering great suggestions. I appreciated that. And it fed my dreams. I have spent much of my life having my dreams quelshed. But this time, I am determined to complete and feed this dream of mine, to spread cheer and joy about the universe. I am writing a second book that is about that process of believing that TOGETHER ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE. So thanks Solid cactus for being part of my TOGETHER.
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
letting the hurt go
These are our thoughts feelings and experiences. We accept responsibility for them. We understand your journey may be different. We honor and respect that. Wishing you effortless joy. Eloise and Jake
some one sent this to me today:
TWO FRIENDS WERE WALKING
> THROUGH THE DESERT .
> DURING SOME POINT OF THE
> JOURNEY, THEY HAD AN
> ARGUMENT; AND ONE FRIEND
> SLAPPED THE OTHER ONE
> IN THE FACE
>
> THE ONE WHO GOT SLAPPED
> WAS HURT, BUT WITHOUT
> SAYING ANYTHING,
> WROTE IN THE SAND ,
>
> TODAY MY BEST FRIEND
> SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE .
>
> THEY KEPT ON WALKING,
> UNTIL THEY FOUND AN OASIS,
> WHERE THEY DECIDED
> TO TAKE A BATH
>
> THE ONE WHO HAD BEEN
> SLAPPED GOT STUCK IN THE
> MIRE AND STARTED DROWNING,
> BUT THE FRIEND SAVED HIM.
>
> AFTER HE RECOVERED FROM
> THE NEAR DROWNING,
> HE WROTE ON A STONE:
>
> 'TODAY MY BEST FRIEND
> SAVED MY LIFE'
>
> THE FRIEND WHO HAD SLAPPED
> AND SAVED HIS BEST FRIEND
> ASKED HIM, 'AFTER I HURT YOU,
> YOU WROTE IN THE SAND AND NOW,
> YOU WRITE ON A STONE, WHY?'
>
> THE FRIEND REPLIED
> 'WHEN SOMEONE HURTS US
> WE SHOULD WRITE IT DOWN
> IN SAND, WHERE WINDS OF
> FORGIVENESS CAN ERASE IT AWAY.
>
> BUT, WHEN SOMEONE DOES SOMETHING GOOD FOR US,
> WE MUST ENGRAVE IT IN STONE
> WHERE NO WIND
> CAN EVER ERASE IT'
>
> LEARN TO WRITE
> YOUR HURTS IN
> THE SAND AND TO
> CARVE YOUR
> BENEFITS IN STONE.
>
I am amazed at how difficult it is, and how long it takes to let go of hurt and remember, and celebrate joy and good times. IT's the good that needs to be remembered and the negative needs to just be blown away like the sand
some one sent this to me today:
TWO FRIENDS WERE WALKING
> THROUGH THE DESERT .
> DURING SOME POINT OF THE
> JOURNEY, THEY HAD AN
> ARGUMENT; AND ONE FRIEND
> SLAPPED THE OTHER ONE
> IN THE FACE
>
> THE ONE WHO GOT SLAPPED
> WAS HURT, BUT WITHOUT
> SAYING ANYTHING,
> WROTE IN THE SAND ,
>
> TODAY MY BEST FRIEND
> SLAPPED ME IN THE FACE .
>
> THEY KEPT ON WALKING,
> UNTIL THEY FOUND AN OASIS,
> WHERE THEY DECIDED
> TO TAKE A BATH
>
> THE ONE WHO HAD BEEN
> SLAPPED GOT STUCK IN THE
> MIRE AND STARTED DROWNING,
> BUT THE FRIEND SAVED HIM.
>
> AFTER HE RECOVERED FROM
> THE NEAR DROWNING,
> HE WROTE ON A STONE:
>
> 'TODAY MY BEST FRIEND
> SAVED MY LIFE'
>
> THE FRIEND WHO HAD SLAPPED
> AND SAVED HIS BEST FRIEND
> ASKED HIM, 'AFTER I HURT YOU,
> YOU WROTE IN THE SAND AND NOW,
> YOU WRITE ON A STONE, WHY?'
>
> THE FRIEND REPLIED
> 'WHEN SOMEONE HURTS US
> WE SHOULD WRITE IT DOWN
> IN SAND, WHERE WINDS OF
> FORGIVENESS CAN ERASE IT AWAY.
>
> BUT, WHEN SOMEONE DOES SOMETHING GOOD FOR US,
> WE MUST ENGRAVE IT IN STONE
> WHERE NO WIND
> CAN EVER ERASE IT'
>
> LEARN TO WRITE
> YOUR HURTS IN
> THE SAND AND TO
> CARVE YOUR
> BENEFITS IN STONE.
>
I am amazed at how difficult it is, and how long it takes to let go of hurt and remember, and celebrate joy and good times. IT's the good that needs to be remembered and the negative needs to just be blown away like the sand
Friday, September 24, 2010
These are our thoughts feelings and experiences. We accept responsibility for them. We understand your journey may be different. We honor and respect that. Wishing you effortless joy. Eloise and Jake
Every professional should prioritize networking as an important and necessary feature of their own success. Being with other like minded individuals can show you what you are good at and simultaniously show you what areas you need to grow and improve.
I have learned the most at this conference from the lunches, and the conversations on the shuttle, and at dinner. This ability and willingness to socialize is a wonderfual way to learn and grow and problem solve.
You certainly can be successful as a loner, but sucess comes so much easier with connections to other people!
Every professional should prioritize networking as an important and necessary feature of their own success. Being with other like minded individuals can show you what you are good at and simultaniously show you what areas you need to grow and improve.
I have learned the most at this conference from the lunches, and the conversations on the shuttle, and at dinner. This ability and willingness to socialize is a wonderfual way to learn and grow and problem solve.
You certainly can be successful as a loner, but sucess comes so much easier with connections to other people!
Thursday, September 23, 2010
Together All Things are Possible
These are our thoughts feelings and experiences. We accept responsibility for them. We understand your journey may be different. We honor and respect that. Wishing you effortless joy. Eloise and Jake
It only takes one person to make a difference in someone’s life. And that one person can create subtle partnerships for hope, for healing and for success. Eloise and Jake: (as most of you know) are fictitious characters, but they are representatives of real people and real stories. Eloise and Jake are now being infused with new life and revival.
They are in the process of creating a whole new purpose in life. Rather than just writing books; (Like "If you stand in the middle you won't fall down" and the new current one: "Finding the tribe: Together All things are Possible) Eloise and Jake are creating a whole new line of products, whose goals are "sharing hope" and "inspiring healing".
This has involved stepping outside of a comfort zone, of what is known into a world of what is not known. Right now I love my job, and love going to work. It is comfortable and known. But to be perfectly honest... some day I want to travel, and spend time with my grandchildren and friends and not be tied down to a nine to five job.
And now that I am used to a certain level of living (good income), I am not sure I want to go back to scrimping and struggling when I retire. So I asked the universe to show me possibilities.
At first I was a little frightened by the response, because it involved stepping out of my comfort zone, into E commerce. (Especially considering I am computer illiterate, and stumble through computer issues with great frustration and ..... well you know.)
But through a series of synchronistic events: (including my niece fronting me a great junk of change) I have ended up at a E commerce seminar through solid cactus. I am sitting in a room full of computer whizzes learning about seo's, meme's, linking, paperclips (not used for papers), (oops they are called paperclicks actually), (and after i posted this i realized it is not actually even paperclicks... it is pay for clicks: lol), branding (no cows involved) and I am as happy as pigs in a pile of.....well something.
I am convinced after a few days, that a good tribe is made up of at least two people who want to support each other in their journeys. And the more people you put in your tribe, the better chance you have of succeeding.
Eloise and Jake are now on a mission to create a tribe of people who TOGETHER can make big things happen....Thus: Together All Things Are Possible,
It only takes one person to make a difference in someone’s life. And that one person can create subtle partnerships for hope, for healing and for success. Eloise and Jake: (as most of you know) are fictitious characters, but they are representatives of real people and real stories. Eloise and Jake are now being infused with new life and revival.
They are in the process of creating a whole new purpose in life. Rather than just writing books; (Like "If you stand in the middle you won't fall down" and the new current one: "Finding the tribe: Together All things are Possible) Eloise and Jake are creating a whole new line of products, whose goals are "sharing hope" and "inspiring healing".
This has involved stepping outside of a comfort zone, of what is known into a world of what is not known. Right now I love my job, and love going to work. It is comfortable and known. But to be perfectly honest... some day I want to travel, and spend time with my grandchildren and friends and not be tied down to a nine to five job.
And now that I am used to a certain level of living (good income), I am not sure I want to go back to scrimping and struggling when I retire. So I asked the universe to show me possibilities.
At first I was a little frightened by the response, because it involved stepping out of my comfort zone, into E commerce. (Especially considering I am computer illiterate, and stumble through computer issues with great frustration and ..... well you know.)
But through a series of synchronistic events: (including my niece fronting me a great junk of change) I have ended up at a E commerce seminar through solid cactus. I am sitting in a room full of computer whizzes learning about seo's, meme's, linking, paperclips (not used for papers), (oops they are called paperclicks actually), (and after i posted this i realized it is not actually even paperclicks... it is pay for clicks: lol), branding (no cows involved) and I am as happy as pigs in a pile of.....well something.
I am convinced after a few days, that a good tribe is made up of at least two people who want to support each other in their journeys. And the more people you put in your tribe, the better chance you have of succeeding.
Eloise and Jake are now on a mission to create a tribe of people who TOGETHER can make big things happen....Thus: Together All Things Are Possible,
Saturday, September 11, 2010
I am done with...
These are our thoughts feelings and experiences. We accept responsibility for them. We understand your journey may be different. We honor and respect that. Wishing you effortless joy. Eloise and Jake
OK I have written this blog three times and keep loosing it it.
I dreamed last night that I died. I have never done that before. It was not scary or mystical or even frightening; it was simply a symbolic gesture of letting go of something in my life. Cool. I feel lighter today.
I think three very powerful words in our universe are "I AM DONE"
When they are said out loud, and with conviction, energy changes. Big Energy CHANGES. The challenge comes however in defining the specifics about what is finished.
Defining the "WITH" of I am done with_______ seems to make it happen.
Most of the time it relates to a struggle in one's life..... and being done with struggle always allows more room for joy.
Yesterday I heard someone say: . "NOTHING YOU TRULY WANT IS UPSTREAM; ITS ALL DOWNSTREAM" .. so try giving up the resistance and just float...downstream....
Be done with the fight, be done with anger, be done with self pity, be done with what ever is torturing you.. and then get happy, be playful and have a blast... and float and enjoy the ride!
OK I have written this blog three times and keep loosing it it.
I dreamed last night that I died. I have never done that before. It was not scary or mystical or even frightening; it was simply a symbolic gesture of letting go of something in my life. Cool. I feel lighter today.
I think three very powerful words in our universe are "I AM DONE"
When they are said out loud, and with conviction, energy changes. Big Energy CHANGES. The challenge comes however in defining the specifics about what is finished.
Defining the "WITH" of I am done with_______ seems to make it happen.
Most of the time it relates to a struggle in one's life..... and being done with struggle always allows more room for joy.
Yesterday I heard someone say: . "NOTHING YOU TRULY WANT IS UPSTREAM; ITS ALL DOWNSTREAM" .. so try giving up the resistance and just float...downstream....
Be done with the fight, be done with anger, be done with self pity, be done with what ever is torturing you.. and then get happy, be playful and have a blast... and float and enjoy the ride!
Thursday, September 9, 2010
friends
These are our thoughts feelings and experiences. We accept responsibility for them. We understand your journey may be different. We honor and respect that. Wishing you effortless joy. Eloise and Jake
to my girl.... today you wil be alive... and breathe.. and feel ... and see something in your world that most people will miss..
today another piece of pain will melt away..... today you will look at someone who has disappointed you.. and know that.. they simply just don't understand.... they haven't had the experiences you have.. and love in a very small guarded world....
you however have been beaten down, have gotten back up.. and know how precious life is.. for you today it will be about loving and forgiving and for reaching out your hand to someone else who is down...
Today... you will treat your five senses with miracles and beauty.. and today the heavens will open up and bless you!
I have witnessed your journey... and I celebrate with your angels that you were born... and that you are my friend
to my girl.... today you wil be alive... and breathe.. and feel ... and see something in your world that most people will miss..
today another piece of pain will melt away..... today you will look at someone who has disappointed you.. and know that.. they simply just don't understand.... they haven't had the experiences you have.. and love in a very small guarded world....
you however have been beaten down, have gotten back up.. and know how precious life is.. for you today it will be about loving and forgiving and for reaching out your hand to someone else who is down...
Today... you will treat your five senses with miracles and beauty.. and today the heavens will open up and bless you!
I have witnessed your journey... and I celebrate with your angels that you were born... and that you are my friend
Sunday, July 25, 2010
Flipping the coin
These are our thoughts feelings and experiences. We accept responsibility for them. We understand your journey may be different. We honor and respect that. Wishing you effortless joy. Eloise and Jake
Recently I attended this incredible family reunion. This family had not been together in about 15 years. Over half the attendees had not met before. (New spouses, new children etc) There were about 50 people there. It was a two day blast. I am still smiling looking at the over 800 pictures that were taken between everyone.
Right before the reunion the senior most member of our genetic tribe crossed over to the other side; which meant that myself, and my four older siblings were now the senior generation of this group.
So to celebrate this transition: At the reunion, we each took a turn sharing wisdom with the younger generation.
My Sister Virginia: the oldest, spoke about the cost of freedom, patriotism, speaking wisely and embracing opportunities.
My brother Myrle made reference to the ingredients of a family being more than just people being biologically related, and wanted to welcome all into the family, and acknowledging those that were not there.
Sandy shared some basic wisdom like: Live each day to its fullest – it may be your last.
If you can’t say something nice about someone – keep your mouth shut. Plan for a rainy day – it will happen. Life is not always fair – so suck it up and get over it. The words “please” and “thank you” are never out of date. Treat others how you want to be treated – with dignity, respect, and honesty. Keep a smile on your face and a sense of humor about you. Give more than you expect to receive. Don’t let your mind stagnate – learn something new each day. Take care of your body – eat well, exercise, and don’t abuse it.
And MOST of all LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY!!!
Joan suggested we all look to our past and examine the legacy that has been left us. She acknowledged that what we think is wisdom as a child changes over time, and that most of us return to our roots as we get older; And how that wisdom of our parents has given her grace and peace as she ages.
And me? Well that’s the purpose of today’s blog: Here is what I said after having given everyone a penny:
“Take the penny and just place it down with whichever side up you want. Some were tails, and some were heads. She asked them to turn it over. And all in the group confirmed that each coin has two sides, a heads and a tails. And when one side is up, it does not make the other disappear. The focus however is only on what is seen.
Life is the same way. Every situation can be positive or negative. And most situations have the potential to be both. The wisdom I would like to share is that we all have a choice to flip our coin when ever we want to.
When something bad happens sad, traumatic, painful or destructive: it is exactly that. And compassion abounds freely for that.
However in every one of those circumstances there is a gift; and there is a way to flip the coin and take something awful and turn it into something good. It does not make the awful go away… it just puts the energy and focus on the good.
The wisdom of 13 years of dealing with people’s pain and trauma is that in EVERY single life event there is a gift.
Flipping the coin….. and finding the gift is often is what life is all about. Reaching down and finding the gratefulness for the gift, is the best way to flip the coin.
I am thankful always, that no matter what happens, there will always be a gift to find if I am persistent in looking for and finding it. SO get good at flipping the coin, and be thankful for ALL things.”
Well the funniest thing happened two days later. It was like it was a test. I do not really think the universe works that way, but it sure seems as if every time I make a resolve in life, I get tested.
Any way, I was so excited about taking my family to my favorite restaurant down at the beach. I eat there every time I go. I have thought about taking them all there for several years now. It sits out on the water, and when the sun sets it is just beautiful. We were all dressed up, and on the waiting list to be seated. There were 11 of us. We were told it would be a 20 minute wait….which turned into a 90 minute wait, while I watched another party as large as ours get seated, and they had come in after us. I tried to be composed and polite, as the tears ran down my cheek. I could not have my family wait any longer, so we left and decided in our dressed up gigs to have take out pizza. (Now one of our family members runs the pizza place, so it certainly helped her and her business.) The bill for pizza was certainly a lot less than it would have been for fine dining. And with all of that I was desperately trying to keep my coin flipped: With a good attitude, despite the fact that inside I was heart broken……Then it happened, I walked out to the parking lot of the pizza place, to find two of my grandchildren sitting in the back seat of my convertible ready to go for a ride in the wind. But that wasn’t what did it. It was the looks on their face. They both were sitting there with fireman hats on. While we were in ordering the pizza, a fire truck had pulled in. And if that was not a enough, one of the fireman had come over to talk to these two 5 and 6 year olds. They were just glowing. I will never forget the beam in their eye and the glow in their cheeks as they saw this big red truck up close, and now had their own personal fire hats.
Well that was certainly better than eating in a snooty restaurant when you add it all up. Yea I believe in flipping the coin. And I believe that when you do, a fire truck or some semblance there of will always pull up and give you a thrill.
Recently I attended this incredible family reunion. This family had not been together in about 15 years. Over half the attendees had not met before. (New spouses, new children etc) There were about 50 people there. It was a two day blast. I am still smiling looking at the over 800 pictures that were taken between everyone.
Right before the reunion the senior most member of our genetic tribe crossed over to the other side; which meant that myself, and my four older siblings were now the senior generation of this group.
So to celebrate this transition: At the reunion, we each took a turn sharing wisdom with the younger generation.
My Sister Virginia: the oldest, spoke about the cost of freedom, patriotism, speaking wisely and embracing opportunities.
My brother Myrle made reference to the ingredients of a family being more than just people being biologically related, and wanted to welcome all into the family, and acknowledging those that were not there.
Sandy shared some basic wisdom like: Live each day to its fullest – it may be your last.
If you can’t say something nice about someone – keep your mouth shut. Plan for a rainy day – it will happen. Life is not always fair – so suck it up and get over it. The words “please” and “thank you” are never out of date. Treat others how you want to be treated – with dignity, respect, and honesty. Keep a smile on your face and a sense of humor about you. Give more than you expect to receive. Don’t let your mind stagnate – learn something new each day. Take care of your body – eat well, exercise, and don’t abuse it.
And MOST of all LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY!!!
Joan suggested we all look to our past and examine the legacy that has been left us. She acknowledged that what we think is wisdom as a child changes over time, and that most of us return to our roots as we get older; And how that wisdom of our parents has given her grace and peace as she ages.
And me? Well that’s the purpose of today’s blog: Here is what I said after having given everyone a penny:
“Take the penny and just place it down with whichever side up you want. Some were tails, and some were heads. She asked them to turn it over. And all in the group confirmed that each coin has two sides, a heads and a tails. And when one side is up, it does not make the other disappear. The focus however is only on what is seen.
Life is the same way. Every situation can be positive or negative. And most situations have the potential to be both. The wisdom I would like to share is that we all have a choice to flip our coin when ever we want to.
When something bad happens sad, traumatic, painful or destructive: it is exactly that. And compassion abounds freely for that.
However in every one of those circumstances there is a gift; and there is a way to flip the coin and take something awful and turn it into something good. It does not make the awful go away… it just puts the energy and focus on the good.
The wisdom of 13 years of dealing with people’s pain and trauma is that in EVERY single life event there is a gift.
Flipping the coin….. and finding the gift is often is what life is all about. Reaching down and finding the gratefulness for the gift, is the best way to flip the coin.
I am thankful always, that no matter what happens, there will always be a gift to find if I am persistent in looking for and finding it. SO get good at flipping the coin, and be thankful for ALL things.”
Well the funniest thing happened two days later. It was like it was a test. I do not really think the universe works that way, but it sure seems as if every time I make a resolve in life, I get tested.
Any way, I was so excited about taking my family to my favorite restaurant down at the beach. I eat there every time I go. I have thought about taking them all there for several years now. It sits out on the water, and when the sun sets it is just beautiful. We were all dressed up, and on the waiting list to be seated. There were 11 of us. We were told it would be a 20 minute wait….which turned into a 90 minute wait, while I watched another party as large as ours get seated, and they had come in after us. I tried to be composed and polite, as the tears ran down my cheek. I could not have my family wait any longer, so we left and decided in our dressed up gigs to have take out pizza. (Now one of our family members runs the pizza place, so it certainly helped her and her business.) The bill for pizza was certainly a lot less than it would have been for fine dining. And with all of that I was desperately trying to keep my coin flipped: With a good attitude, despite the fact that inside I was heart broken……Then it happened, I walked out to the parking lot of the pizza place, to find two of my grandchildren sitting in the back seat of my convertible ready to go for a ride in the wind. But that wasn’t what did it. It was the looks on their face. They both were sitting there with fireman hats on. While we were in ordering the pizza, a fire truck had pulled in. And if that was not a enough, one of the fireman had come over to talk to these two 5 and 6 year olds. They were just glowing. I will never forget the beam in their eye and the glow in their cheeks as they saw this big red truck up close, and now had their own personal fire hats.
Well that was certainly better than eating in a snooty restaurant when you add it all up. Yea I believe in flipping the coin. And I believe that when you do, a fire truck or some semblance there of will always pull up and give you a thrill.
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